The Energetics of Relationship - PART 3
By Kimberley Jones
December’s feature touched on how the health of your Relationship Field (RF) relies on your ability to stay emotionally/energetically healthy in yourself.
If one partner is taking responsibility for their emotions & behaviour & the other one isn’t it creates imbalance. Most people I guide through a break-up or divorce come to me extremely depleted, not only are they understandably upset & raw but their energy fields are drained & in tatters. This person is usually the one who gave the most of themselves to save it, they were the one who acted as the ‘receiver’& ‘processor’ of unspoken emotional energies from their partner & was the ‘manager’ of their Relationship Field.
You can do something today to maintain a healthy energy balance in your relationship. The main thing is to avoid using each other as counsellors & emotional punch-bags, have fun together, play together, focus on what you can give to each other rather than what you can get, these things build positive energy in the RF & strengthen your reserves for when one of you may need more support from the other. Discovering your own inner, loving parent, resolving painful childhood issues & exploring your own independent passions & purpose can all lead to a rich & stimulating relationship. You will be feeding it new fresh healthy energy as you grow & heal. It is also essential to identify energy links with others that may be draining you or burdening you as this leads to the RF being drained or congested.
For some the feeling of a strong RF has a cosy & familiar feeling to it & it is easy to get into a rut & stay home with that person every night. A RF gives you an extra layer of energetic protection & it can be tempting to nestle in & stay put, why not? It feels safe. This eventually leads to stagnation. The RF is a living thing that requires regular feeding with fresh energy; it is like a joint bank account where you store money to pay for the most delightful & rewarding experiences of your lives. If you both regularly pay in similar amounts & no one person makes all the withdrawals you have harmony & a healthy bank balance!
From this balanced & energised state you can consciously choose from a place of love whether you want to stay together or move on, rather than split because the Relationship Field has literally died.
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(Above article first published in 'Breathing Space' magazine).
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