The Conscious Relating Process
By Kimberley Jones
A powerful story of how Light Coaching is helping people – ‘Conscious Relating’
It never ceases to amaze me how courageous people are & what beautiful moments of enlightenment are possible between two human beings. I feel so honoured to do what I do & I learn a great deal from those who allow themselves to be humble & vulnerable in sessions with me. Just recently I worked with a lovely lady who had a significant “AH-HA” moment in her life. With her permission I will share with you what happened.
The issue presented to me was about my client’s relationship with her boyfriend. She came to me blaming & questioning herself, thinking she was doing something wrong, that somehow she wasn’t good enough & was to blame for problems between them. She felt she had tried everything to create some balance or closeness & was getting increasingly drained & helpless.
Together we intuited that some problems in her intimate relationship were due to an imbalance in energy or power within the relationship & that she was in fact allowing her boyfriend to drain or feed off her life force. Many of his behaviours were actively aimed at getting the energy she had been so willing to give. Once she realised this was happening & acknowledged how this was making her feel she decided she wanted to take action to do something about it. But how? As a child she hadn’t been taught how to set rules, boundaries & limitations, she hadn’t been given permission to say “No”.
We decided to explore ‘Conscious Relating’ skills.
So we spent a couple of sessions working with forgiving & clearing her feelings of guilt or shame towards herself for giving her power away in various ways throughout her life. We were working on actually clearing this old energy from her ‘pain body’ so it no longer informed her thinking or choices. We used a combination of the Hawaiian healing technique ‘Ho’Oponopono’ & conscious breathing.
It was at this point we could start planting new seeds to create new healthy habits, beliefs & choices. We started by using mantras & affirmations in a particular way that roots the new beliefs into the brain & the body as something real & sustainable. This process was used by my client on an ongoing basis while we moved onto the next step which was to create a helpful process she could use whenever she knew she was going to see her boyfriend. She wanted a tool that made her feel empowered before she saw him so we started working with a powerful creative process based on central laws of the Universe, I call it the ‘Energy, Intention & Sensualisation’ Process.
STEP 1: ENERGY
Get grounded - Imagine your chords of energy that run from the base of your spine down into the Earth, intend/imagine them burrowing deep to the centre of the Earth. Focus your breath in your lower abdomen & breathe Earth energy up into your body like juice up through a straw. Allow your weight to sink lower in your body & into your legs. Breathe deeply.
Get connected – Imagine the bright light of Source/Divine/God high above your head allowing it to gently stream in through your crown chakra on top of your head. Use your breath to draw this energy down & into your body right into your feet & into your cells.
Get boundaried – Imagine/intend a brilliant bubble or egg of light surrounding you & creating a strong healthy boundary.
Get clean – Imagine/Intend standing beneath a shower of rainbow light that thoroughly cleanses your energy fields of any energy that isn’t yours & any energy that does not serve your highest good or greatest joy. Ask your angels or guides or Archangel Michael to help clear all chords & ties between you & the person concerned that are not for your highest good or greatest joy. Ask that both sets of energy fields (my client’s & her boyfriend’s in this case) are left sealed, healed & intact.
STEP 2: INTENTION
Set a clear intention. In this case my client set an intention as follows: “I ...(name)..am now very happy & comfortable setting clear boundaries around my boyfriend & saying NO to my boyfriend without any guilt.” AND SO IT IS.
We worked together carefully to come up with just the right words for her that allowed for a feeling of energy movement within her in the direction of increased power. We tweaked the words until she felt an energy release within her & she felt safe & powerful with her intention. She then spent the following days writing it down, saying it out loud & most importantly she said it out loud to herself in the mirror just before every day or evening spent with her boyfriend. Any resistant thoughts or fears that came up when she stated her intention were dissolved away in her loving attention of those thoughts & feelings along with a deep but gentle cleansing breath.
STEP 3: SENSUALISATION
When my client was ready we discussed taking this process to the next level: Sensualisation. Much like ‘visualisation’ the aim is to rehearse a desired outcome in one’s imagination with a view to actually creating a different outcome. With this process however, you incorporate as many senses as possible in the creative process which significantly amplifies the success. So in this case my client relaxed, went through the above ‘ENERGY’ processes, affirmed her intention & then began on her internal ‘mind screen’ to create images & stories of really successful interactions with her boyfriend.
We started with how she might look, her posture, her facial expressions, her body language etc if she was feeling empowered & well-boundaried, safe & confident around him.
Then she allowed herself to hear how her voice might sound if she were assertive & comfortable in her power. We really went to town & she saw the clothes she was wearing, smelled the perfume she had on & noticed how she felt inside her body, how she thought & what her energy levels felt like. We really created a very detailed, multi-sensory, colourful sensualisation of how she would be when fully in her power in the company of her boyfriend. She also decided to place her partner more in the process clearly defining & creating his healthy responses & encouraging behaviour that she so dearly wanted.
Finally when the multi-dimensional outcome was clearly designed she imagined herself stepping into that version of her, allowing all the feelings to strengthen & soak into her cells. She then intended clearly to bring those feelings & qualities back out of the sensualisation into her everyday life into the here & now.
After just one session using the complete process from beginning to end this was the feedback from my client after she had put it into practice in her life:
“Using the conscious relating process was miraculous! It was magical. Something really shifted. Our relationship went to a totally new level. Thank you so much.”
In honour of all those committed to conscious & courageous relationship.
Love & blessings,
Kimberley x
Kimberley Jones
LIGHT COACHING
kimberleyjones@lightcoaching.co.uk
www.lightcoaching.co.uk
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