By Carl Munson
Perhaps you're single and still seeking that elusive 'soul mate'. Maybe you're disenchanted with your current relationship. Maybe you've given up on relationships altogether. Imagine having a mate who could be there for you 24/7; a mate who can support you in creating wonderful loving relationships. Well you may be surprised to discover that your Inner Mate is waiting for you right now - just moments away.
Holistic Local's Carl Munson talks to Kimberley Lovell about this breakthrough in love intimacy and sexuality.
CM: Kimberley, it's great to meet you, can you tell us exactly what an Inner Mate is?
KL: Each of us have within us an internal image of our ideal partner, Carl Jung referred to this as the 'Anima/Animus', the masculine and feminine within. Often we go around with these images in mind, comparing external prospects to this inner idealised image, ticking boxes.
Often we miss connections with wonderful prospective partners simply because they don't come in the ideal package. Perhaps you are looking for 'tall, dark and handsome', or maybe you prefer the 'blue eyed blonde' or the 'practical earthy type' or the 'mysteriously mystic' or maybe you are seeking a clone.
Often in our search for a partner these criteria blind us to the deeper qualities that we need in relationships. Our role models for relationships are our parents and subconsciously we often seek out those with similar positive and negative qualities.
CM: So in a sense we recreate parent-child relationships?
KL: Many of us are still seeking Mother or Father figures to affirm or parent our Inner Child. Of course partners can provide us with nurturing, support and encouragement, but they can't possibly meet all of our needs and they most definitely can't meet the needs of the past.
So often we carry around these inner images consciously or subconsciously projecting them onto the current prospect or partner in an attempt to get our needs met. These projections are like a movie screen that comes down in front of the person, obscuring their true nature, and for a time we "fall in love" we see with rose tinted glasses, and we throw our own glitter upon them, seeing in them all those ideal positive traits.
CM: And as we know, that can't last.
KL: No, after a time, as the movie continues, the person cannot continue the pretence, and pokes their head through the screen. At this point we project our negative images. Hello, who are you? You're not what I thought you were and where is my prince/princess?
Disappointed, we turn away and continue our search for that elusive soulmate. For many this is the cycle of romance or the dating game.
CM: So what can be done?
KL: Imagine a different movie - a relationship where each person has identified and is fulfilling their own needs. They no longer need a prince or a princess, they have moved through their previously unmet childhood needs, resolved past relationship issues and are able to see you as you are. Yes really, imagine being able to be yourself, no more needing to be entertaining, on your best behaviour, no more manically cleaning the fridge before they arrive, no need to impress, for you have impressed yourself.
CM: That sounds more like it.
KL: Yes, your Inner Mate heals the wounds of abandonment, loneliness and grief, enabling you to feel emotionally secure and helping you draw romance into your life. Your Inner Mate will guide you in communicating with a partner, helping you to express your true feelings and needs.
Your Inner Mate is your cheerleader, supporting you in your daily adventures and encounters. Your Inner Mate will fill in the gaps that current partners cannot reach. Your Inner Mate is an oasis in the desert, saving you from those lonely nights. A loving companion who completely understands you and wants only for your happiness.
CM: That sounds too good to be true.
KL: I know! Well, your Inner Mate doesn't just tell you what you want to hear, but guides you through loving and clear communication. There are no hidden agendas, no unrealistic demands, and no jealousy with prospective or current partners. Your Inner Mate is your number one supporter in helping you to create a loving relationship in your outer world, and helping you bring your dreams to life.
CM: But just how real is the Inner Mate? Aren't we just making it all up?
KL: You have created or made up every relationship you have ever had. Your Inner Mate is very real and just waiting for you to connect. As with all healthy relationships, the connection develops over time. The more you put in, the more you get out. Each time you call upon your Inner Mate, each moment you spend in conversation, every meal you share, each savoured embrace, every tender kiss develops your relationship, there's no telling where this will lead, the possibilities are endless and this is one relationship that you know is going to fulfil you.
CM: So where is he or she and how do we find them?
KL: You'll be pleased to hear you don't have to go to the ends of the earth to find your Inner Mate; in fact you don't even have to leave your own front door. Your Inner Mate is deep within you and is discovered through tapping into the collective unconscious through hypnosis and discovering the pure archetype and learning new ways of relating. Connect Now!
CM: Thank you for telling us about this fascinating idea Kimberley. What can people do if they want to know more?
KL: I help people find their Inner Mate one-to-one and by phone. There will be an Inner Mate Journey CD available soon as well as Inner Mate workshops and teleconferences.
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Kimberley Lovell is a Transpersonal Hypnotherapist and trainer. She founded the Soulutions International Healing Centre providing training in Transpersonal Hypnotherapy, Energy Psychology, EFT and EmoTrance. Her students and clients come from all over the world to live their dreams and create the love of their life.
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